All They Need is Love
Happy Valentine’s Day! Some people don’t view today as anything more than just another day in February. Other people believe today is a Hallmark holiday created to increase sales during a time that is historically a retail dead zone. Some people believe that but they still go along with the gimmick anyway. And then there are those that take this day as an opportunity to shower their loved ones with kindness, appreciation, and admiration. I happen to fall into the latter category.
For me, Valentine’s Day is not about romance nor is it about extravagant gifts. It’s about love. The fact that Valentine’s Day occurs during tax season makes it only natural to give my CPA a little extra loving. He’s in the throes of busy season, working longer and longer hours, and facing new challenges everyday. If I can make him feel like the most adored person in the world, even just for the day, then you better believe I’m going to do just that.
So what can we, as the spouses of CPA’s or the partner of those who are facing strenuous times in their career, do to make today (or any day for that matter) a little extra special for them? Here are my go-to suggestions if you’re struggling to think of a few easy, simple gestures that can go a long way.
- Do something tangible that will make their day easier. Make them coffee and/or breakfast. Take the garbage out. Drop off dinner at the office. Run an errand that they’ve been putting off. Take care of that task you’ve been bugging them to do. It doesn’t have to be anything grand in scale, just a simple action to show them that you’re there to make things a little easier.
- Tell them you’re thinking of them. Text them. Email them. Call them. Write them the sappiest note in an even sappier card. Use your words and TELL THEM. Sure, they know you think about them throughout the day, but how often do you tell them that they are on your mind? Because I’m fairly certain we’re on their minds. A lot.
- Give them a free pass for the day. And no, I’m not talking about a hall pass! A pass on those things they forgot to do. A pass on the fact that no matter how many times you ask, their laundry never actually ends up in the hamper. A pass on ALL the things you want to nag them about. Let them win the argument. Or even better, don’t even get into the argument in the first place. Give them the gift of a hassle free, nag free, free-to-just-be kinda day.
- All they need is love, shower them with it. You know them way better than I do but one thing that is universal in all humans is the need to be loved. You know their emotional love language. You know what gives them the warm and fuzzies. You know what puts a smile on their face. Put that knowledge to use and just love them. Hug them a little longer. Make extra time for them. Go out of your way to show gratitude. Whatever your person needs to feel loved, do it.
The little things you do can add up to big things. Remind yourself that even the simplest of actions can make a positive impact on your partner’s attitude, outlook, and demeanor. If they’re struggling to make today a great one, make it great for them.