The Post-Tax Season Adjustment Period – 5 Tips to Make It Easier & More Enjoyable
Tax season is OVER!!! Oh, how I’ve been longing to shout out those sweet, sweet words. It was a grueling three and half months, but it’s all said and done and I don’t have to think about it again until 2018. Spring is gracing us with amazing weather, beautiful blooms, picturesque sunsets, and just like flipping off a switch, overnight my CPA hubby has gone from working 85+ hour weeks to getting home at a normal hour. We’re able to go on walks in the daylight, have meals together, and run errands as a duo. Our world is suddenly back to “normal”. And so, the adjustment period begins.
Each year I look forward to April 15th (or whatever date Tax Day falls on) like a small child looks forward to Christmas morning. As the days go by and we get closer and closer, my excitement only increases. I’m just so downright ecstatic to have my partner back. After those 100ish days of tax season, I start to miss even the little things. His corny jokes. His annoying whistling habit. Even his ability to make a mess when he is home no more than 2 waking hours each day (how this is even possible is beyond me). I always think about all the summer fun we’re going to have, the vacations we’re going to take, and the wonderful memories we’re going to make. But I seem to forget about the loathed adjustment period. The period in which we’re trying to figure out how exactly we made things work so effortlessly pre-tax season.
Going from spending so much time apart to spending so much time together can cause some serious whiplash. During tax season, I get into my own self-sufficient routine. I have my weekly tennis lessons. I skip dinner when I’m not hungry. Heck, I even take a nap some afternoons when I sneak home early from work. I get into a rhythm that works for me, and I don’t have to worry about it impacting anyone else. But come mid-April, with essentially the snap of a finger, I’m suddenly needing to realign my schedule and my life. Unlike myself, my man eats dinner every night. He doesn’t take naps. Tennis is not his thing. This is where my guilt ensues.
I haven’t been able to spend much time with my husband since the beginning of January, so I feel obligated to be around and catch up on life with him. At the same time, I have gotten so cemented in doing my own thing that I struggle to incorporate him back into my world. So, what can help make this adjustment process a little easier? I’m no expert, and I’m still trying to figure this all out myself, but these five pointers have helped smooth the wrinkles out for the me and the hubs.
Plan a Trip
Vacations have this amazing ability to transport us completely out of our daily lives and submerge us in the place we happen to be visiting. Travelling takes us out of routines to begin with, so it is an effortless way to integrate our two worlds back together.
Establish Schedules and Commitments
I feel A LOT less guilty when I tell my husband up front that I’ve picked up a new hobby and I have lessons every Monday night. He gets it, and wants me to go have fun. I don’t feel like I’m blowing him off because I’m gone every Monday night. He also knows that’s his night to do his own things, too. Win, win.
Work on Projects Together
Instead of bombarding my guy with a post-tax season honey-do list a mile long, I’ve started making a “let’s do” list. These are all projects that we’ll both benefit from that we can do together. It’s actually really fun to accomplish these tasks as a team and taking on the list together helps us reconnect, talk, and reminds us that we’re truly friends.
Plan Date Nights
Having designated nights planned to go out and spend time together can help take the pressure off both of us. It helps us remember that we’re still giving each other enough attention even though we want to watch different TV shows in separate rooms or when we aren’t constantly hanging out together.
Talk About It
Last but certainly not least, you have to just talk about the elephant in the room. He’s been gone, and I’ve been living my life. Just because he is suddenly home now doesn’t mean I need to drop everything and cater to his schedule, his routine, and live solely in his world. He wouldn’t want that, and it’s not healthy for either of us. While easing back into things, it is important to openly talk about each person’s needs and work together to get back into a pace that works for both parties involved.
This is such a fun time; I’m getting to see my favorite person who I have been missing for what seems like forever. Part of me just wants to jump in headfirst, spend every waking hour with him, and force the reconnection process. The more rational part of me knows that it’ll take a few weeks (maybe even a month or more) and a decent amount of effort on both of our parts to fully get back to normal. And sometimes a new normal stems from this whole thing. Either way, tax season is OVER. I have my hubby back. It’s sunny and 75 outside. And I have a dinner date with my man followed by a tennis lesson tonight. This is the good life, if you ask me.